The last fifteen days I’ve been involved in something at The SITS Girls (I’ll explain more later…) community wherein I spend 30 days becoming, hopefully, a better blogger. I don’t know if you, my regular pals, have noticed but I’m sure trying!
One day we spent coming up with a bunch of new ideas for our blogs and today I’m starting on one of the ideas I had! It’s a new weekly series called “Its Friday, I’m In Love…” which is a total play off a song. (Betcha you can’t name the song AND the movie it comes from without using a search engine!) I’ve decided to post this new series after reflecting on past posts where I’ve shared times where Alex and I have been struggling. You see we’ve resolved to take this step in our real lives and I thought, hey it would be super fun and possibly even helpful (I’m an optimist) to y’all!
My premise is this: Y’all know Alex and I have been um…not so grand. In fact about two weeks ago we hit our bottom. The bottom happened in an IKEA parking garage where we stared at each other after a rather, ahem, pointed discussion and said “Maybe…Maybe we shouldn’t have gotten married. Maybe we should turn and walk away now. Maybe…” Yes, in fact the “D” word was tossed around.
The next morning we continued really talking about what we felt as individuals about marriage in general, our status as a couple, and then we shut up and let each other think. THEN we talked to my parents because having a Mom that is a pastor really helps when you need counseling advice. Finally that night we looked at each other and agreed on the following:
1. Divorce is NOT a word in our vocabulary. We meant WE DO until DEATH DO US PART. So we needed to live up to what we meant.
2. We needed to find to rediscover each other again. To remember why and how much we love one another. To find our honeymoon moments again. You know, moments like this….
So that is what this whole new series is about. Our Journey to STRENGTHEN our marriage and what all we do to get there. We’ve already taken several huge steps. We’ve started attending church regularly…which is very hard for me. We’ve managed to get through two whole weeks without casting blame and instead rationally talking. We did have one fight, but it was more of a purge of emotions towards a crummy situation that we both were upset about rather than towards one another. (We aren’t perfect by any means, so this is bound to happen. As long as it doesn’t undo the good stuff that came before it and we get back up and keep on trucking ITS OK to fall.)
So on that note here is TODAYS UPDATE:
The weather is WONDERFUL in Georgia. Alex works Saturdays for 12 hours so we’re really only together Sundays. So as of right now we’re planning on getting away from the house and the temptations we have here to spend time focused 100% on each other. We’re headed to a national battlefield where we can picnic lunch after church and then we are going to go for a walk. Maybe take photos. Talk. Laugh (A lot I hope). And flirt. Yup I said it….WE ARE GOING TO FLIRT. With Each Other. That’s the whole romance thing that every marriage needs a shot of occasionally.
Next week I’ll update you on not only how this weekend went, plus pictures, but also what we did through the week to have a little marriage growing. Hope y’all like this new series!